What Are STDs? and why you need to tell your partner:
“There’s no age limit to getting STIs,” says Peter Leone, “but in these second-half
dating situations, you often don’t think about the risk after dating a single person
for years.”
It is natural to feel anxiousan dashamed, but in order to protect your partner, you need to have this conversation.
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• Telling a former or current partner provides an opportunity for testing and, if necessary, treatment.
• Informing a potential spouse so that he or she can make an informed decision regarding his or her life.
• You can re-infect yourself if you’re being treated for an STD but your partner isn’t.
• In some areas, failing to inform your spouse about an STD after a verified diagnosis is a criminal violation.
NotifyingaNewPartnerofanSTD
You have a better understanding now. “Before I have sex, I want to talk about STDs and protection because I have an STD,” you could begin
• Meet them in a relaxed and safe place for conversation.
• If your partner is calm and understanding, take the time to ask about their sexual history.
You may find that they have a previous history of STIs or STDs.
Encourage your spouse/partner to elicit information from you.
While you’re talking, provide your companion information about STDs. It’s fine if you can’t answer all of your partner’s queries. Say you have no idea and go to a health center or search
online together (Here Put Your Contact Link) to learn more and explore it.
TellingCurrentPartnerAboutSTD
Be honest – Tell the truth, whether you have an STD or have never had one before.
Even if your partner has no symptoms, if you and your partner are already having
sex, you should stop having sex until you are both tested.
You and your companion will almost certainly require medical attention.
Talking to colleagues about private warts
About 75-80% of women (and men) get HPV or genital warts at some stage of life.
They usually show no symptoms.
DoIneedtotellmypartner?
Benefits of Sharing Information:
Honesty is often the best policy and sharing this information will keep you informed of HPV.
Disadvantages of information sharing:
Currently, men’s certified testing is neither necessary nor available. Sharing information can lead to anxiety and misunderstanding.
HowtodealwithSTDinanunstablerelationship
“If you are not in a very stable relationship with this person, please do not disclose
your diagnosis in the bedroom.
HPV is often very funny. About one in four Americans currently has HPV, and 80
percent of people will get it in their lifetime. Because it’s so common, talking about
it isn’t really a big deal.
Most people have HPV. “It’s not a badge of shame,” Pizarro
spoke.
Whatisthebestwaytotellthem?
There are many ways to tell partners:
• Face to face,
• On the phone,
• Text message,
• Give them a partner identification card (ask your doctor or nurse)
• Email.
How to tell your partner you have a sexually transmitted disease (STD)
In an American nationwide health study, 24% of teenage girls were diagnosed with an STI, usually HPV.
Studies show that people who disclose their STI status to their partners have very positive feelings about their sexual orientation.
1. Be Tested
You may have an STI unknowingly. Therefore, it is a good idea to get tested. A
good time to talk about this before you start having sex.
2. Open the conversation
It’s quite normal to be embarrassed at first, but you’ll feel better once you’re done
with it.
3. Be proud, you did it!
It can be scary to open up, share yourself and your sexual history. It’s a tough
conversation to have, so be proud of yourself for taking this step.
How to Tell Partners If You Have an STD
Consider organizing a conversation in a positive way like this:
“I really care about you so I want you to know…”
“Tonight, will be fun but you should know that I have… should we use a condom / dam / glove?”.
Dealing with rejection
• Keep remember you are not rejected, your std that was rejected.
• Remember that other person whom you are telling will thank you for your courage.
• Consider looking for other people living with an STI.
